6 Life-Changing Facts on Forgiveness

Sometimes a lengthy setup is not needed.

Today, I’ll simply share six facts on the subject of forgiveness with you. Walking in these truths can be life-changing.

  1. Forgiveness can be complete even if you can’t forget the offense.

    I can’t erase hurts from my memory, but I do remember choosing to forget them. Don’t let the presence of awkward feelings or the fact that you can’t completely forget the offense keep you from walking in forgiveness. Obey forgiveness by sheer will and eventually, your emotions will catch up. Every time it surfaces, make this statement to yourself: I have forgiven that offense, and I will act as though it never happened.

  2. Do not wait until the other person asks for forgiveness before you give it.

    Choose immediately to forgive and do not allow unforgiveness to simmer in your soul. It’s a matter of personal heart health. You can thank me later for this tip. If you refuse to thank me, that’s okay too. I’ll simply forgive you.

  3. Christian, walk in forgiveness‬; unforgiveness will only make you bitter.

    Don’t let it be the roadblock stopping you from following Christ. You can maintain a life of religious devotion to church attendance, tithing, and even acting morally, but you will not be able to hold on to unforgiveness and follow Christ. Be better, not bitter.

  4. Forgiveness is not minimizing the offense and the pain that was caused.

    It is granted in spite of the offense and pain that it inflicted. Yes, the offense was great, and the pain still runs deep. So were your offenses toward God, but in Christ, He has provided for your forgiveness and reconciliation with Him. Forgiveness is the beginning of inner healing.

  5. Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily include restoring trust and reconciling the relationship.

    The nature of some offenses teaches us better. An extreme example would be that of a family member found guilty of sexual misconduct with children. Though it would be necessary to forgive, that individual will not be invited on the next family vacation. God teaches me to forgive a pedophile, but I don’t have to hire them as a children’s pastor.

  6. Give forgiveness because you are going to need more in the future.

    This final reason has to do with the fact that in your future, you will either accidentally or on purpose offend others. If in your relationships with others, you are quick to forgive and not hold a grudge, it is highly likely that you will receive that treatment from others. Think about Luke 6:37-38 (it’s really not about money).
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I’ll stop with six because it makes for a shorter post. However, there are more that could be added. I’m reminded though, that six is the number of mankind and to be honest, this issue of unforgiveness is all about horizontal relationships. 

It is God’s will for His people to walk in forgiveness. Yes, it is difficult, but you can do it with His help. Make up your mind that you will obey the facts of His Word. Place your faith in His ability to help you, and drag your feelings through the process until they catch up.

What are your thoughts on these six? What would you immediately add to this list? Share in the comments and let’s help one another. Specifically, if anything in this list is beneficial for you, I’d really like to know it. If you’d rather remain anonymous, feel free to tell me about it here in the confidential form.

12 thoughts on “6 Life-Changing Facts on Forgiveness

  1. Great post on forgiveness
    I liked all six of them, numbers
    Four and Six really stood out to me.
    I always like to think when we forgive
    it releases us to walk in peace and the
    hurt can’t dominate our lives. Also when we allow forgiveness to operate in our lives it gives the Lord the opportunity to prepare a table before us in the presence of our hurt

    really is an opportunity for the Lord

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    • Thank you, Pastor Susan, for reading and commenting. I like your observation about how forgiveness allows “the Lord the opportunity to prepare a table before us in the presence of our hurt.” I hope you have a great Sunday!


  2. Thank you Bro William it took me a long time to forgive someone who had done wrong to me an my children it took the Lord shaking me waking me up to realizing that if I didn’t I was on the wrong road praise the Lord I am now on the winning side

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    • You’re welcome Becky. And thank you for that brief confession and testimony. God is able to help us when we are willing to line up with His Word. I’m glad to hear you are on the winning side.


    • Your comment made me think of Proverbs 4:23, “Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.” That would have been a good supporting verse for this post. Have a great day my blogging friend.


  3. have four sister that I have ask God to forgive me for the wrong I have done to them ,many times in the last six years and tried to leave it on the Altar but it keep coming back the old devil just want let it die.I tried to call one of my sisters but you have to a code to talk to her .I Love all of themour parents are passed on .


    • I applaud your diligence and commitment to walk in forgiveness. Another side note is that all too often God has forgiven us, others aren’t focused on it, but we need to forgive ourselves and move forward with life. Have a great day.


  4. You could say we are on the same page” I agree” the one thing I would add: I try to keep a perspective also with whom the offence comes from, if they are a believer” I forgive and remember to give them grace to grow” if they are not saved” even more grace, because I know they are being controlled by the enemy, love the sinner hate the sin”

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